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- Dec 13, 2017
Dr. Laura Markham said “Positive parenting – there are times positive discipline, moderate guidance, or loving guidance — is simply guidance that keeps our kids on the right path, offered in a positive way that resists any temptation to be punitive. Studies show that’s what helps kids learn consideration and responsibility, and makes for happier kids and parents.”
Positive discipline asserts mutual respect and utilizes positive guidance. It centers on learning (for the future) instead of punishing (the past). Studies regularly show that maintaining positive discipline produce better results in terms of the child’s behavior, emotional growth, academic performance and mental health.
Tips on Positive Discipline
Give Attention on the Reasons behind the Action
The author of “Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves,” Naomi Aldort, says that children want to behave well; if they seem to miss the mark, it’s not without a logical reason. “If parents can address the cause directly, even if they don’t get what they want, children would feel that their needs are acknowledged. They can then move on without the need to misbehave.
Be a good role model
You’re already a role model for your child. Walk the talk. Don’t just ask your child what you want them to do. Show them. Every time you say something, take an action or have a reaction to someone or something, your child is observing your behavior. You’re already a role model, whether you like it or not. The current assessment for parents is to display a positive example as often as imaginable.
Show Affection and unconditional love
The study said that a lack of parental affection can cause children more stressed since parents put too much pressure on them to succeed without balancing it with affection. Loving your child can be as easy as granting them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues actively. Safe, affectionate touch is a powerful communicator of love. The human need for loving touch is as crucial to healthy development as the need to hear words of love.
Loving them cannot spoil them. Hug and Kiss your kids even when they’re acting naughty. If one sibling whacks another, for example, get down to his level, hold his hand or tap his shoulder, and say “We don’t hit. Hitting hurts!”
Communication is a necessary way to establish you from an ongoing relationship with your child. Talk to your child and also listen to them carefully. Children who are unable to express how they feel may become frustrated, lash out in other ways. By maintaining an open line of communication, you’ll have a superior relationship with your child and your child will come to you when there’s a problem.
Control Your Temper
Have deep breath when you feel yourself escalating—and take a time to understand things through. Inhale. Exhale. Repeat. Sometimes all it takes time to cool down. Deep, concentrated breathing can free tension and relax your body, which will help you to better deal with your child. If you can’t control your child’s bad behavior without losing your temper, give yourself in time-out.